Gay Love Is OK

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Protection

Avoiding anal sex altogether is the best way of avoiding any risks.  There are other, safer sexual practices that can be exciting and rewarding, but many couples may still wish to try it.  The use of condoms and water-based lubricants, such as KY Jelly, will offer some protection.  Other lubricants may cause condoms to split, as will over-energetic thrusting without adequate lubrication.  Specially toughened condoms designed for anal intercourse may offer more protection.

How to safely perform anal intercourse

Anal intercourse involves the penetration of the anus and rectum with the erect penis for the purpose of sexual stimulation.  It is possible for both men and women, although care is needed for it to be safe and comfortable.

Ensure the anal area is clean and the bowel is empty.  This is important both aesthetically and practically.  If the bowel is empty, there is no more risk of the receptive partner passing faeces during anal sex than there is of the insertive partner passing urine.

The 'receptive' partner must be able to relax their anal sphincter in order to accommodate the erect penis.  The anal sphincter is a ring of muscle that can be contracted or relaxed under voluntary control.  Forced penetration may result in tearing of the sensitive skin around the anus or the sphincter itself and this may result in severe anal pain or even faecal incontinence.

Try gently inserting a lubricated finger perhaps covered by a condom or glove into the anus first.  This will enable them to find out whether penetration is comfortable and enjoyable.  Having managed to accommodate one finger you should run the finger around the anal canal gently stretching it.  This must be done gently so as not to cause pain or injury.

Next you should try and insert two fingers.  If this is successfully achieved they may wish to try with a well-lubricated penis or with a butt plug (a broad-based anal dilator), dildo or vibrator.

Gentleness, care, adequate lubrication and anal relaxation are required, not the insertive partner pushing harder!  If condoms are used for penile penetration, which is advisable to reduce the risk of sexually transmitted disease, it is important to use a water-based lubricant.  The insertive partner must control their thrusting, so as to give the receptive partner time to allow their sphincter to relax.  With time and practice, this will become easier.

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